Often in life, we can feel responsible for others emotional wellbeing; if they are unhappy or sad, if they’re experiencing difficulties in their life is, if they are angry irritable or in the way they react to us. Taking responsibility for other peoples emotional wellbeing can often cause us to feel not good enough, reinforcing entrenched views about our own self-worth.
It is important to recognise that all our relationships with others are co-created and so whilst we do have an element of responsibility around our own actions and behaviours, it is important that we don’t take full responsibility for how others think, feel or behave.
The way another person thinks, feels or acts is a reflection of themselves and their own life experiences. These life experiences may lead the other to play the victim or be quite persecutory, but noting the boundary between where your responsibility towards yourself ends and their responsibility begins can be a powerful tool of change for both you and them!